domingo, 10 de enero de 2010

Changing my thinking

Dwelling on the negative simply contributes to its power. I am trying to change my thinking. It´s really hard when you´ve shaped yourself into a person, whether meaning to or not, and you figure out that person isn´t really going to help you in the challenges of life. I feel like I´ve put everyone else before me, to the point that Kelsey is lost. No more. I´m putting myself as a priority on the list of my life.

I went to a psychologist to sort of talk through my feelings and not being familiar with him, I was a little hesitant. But by the end of the session, I had gotten something out of it. There was a purpose to what he was asking me about, and you can´t solve a person´s problems in one session. That´s just unrealistic.

We talked about the events of my life, how I feel about them, and what drove me to do this or do that. But really, the things that have happened in my life aren´t things that any normal person can handle without reacting! Emotions and anxiety have a purpose, so I can´t just want to be a person without them. My level of anxiety, though, is kind of extreme, to the point that I sometimes feel overwhelmed

OK, so here´s what I learned and want to apply to my life:
  • Avoid global, generalizing statements. I see that me overgeneralizing about my job made me feel more stressed than I needed to.
  • Recognize the positive. See the negative and think of why it happened.
  • Stress is a result of the amount of change in our lives. Even a person who wins the lottery is going to have stress because that signifies a big change.
  • When you get anxious, think through what is making you anxious. What do you feel threatened about? Are these threats really as big as you are making them?

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